What Did You Expect?

When a woman becomes pregnant, she expects to deliver a baby in nine months. As the due date approaches the sense of urgency rises. Is the house ready for this new life? Is the crib built? Is the carseat installed? Do we have enough bibs and blankets? (You can never have enough bibs…babies are constant and consistent droolers.) For you, there was a moment when you had a goal, a vision, a sense of purpose you were walking towards. You expected to conquer your goal and make your vision a reality. Where did your sense of expectancy go?


Earlier, I talked about having a sense of urgency in life. But if we only have urgency and not expectancy we will be nothing but anxious and stressed out. What we need is the two-fold tandem of urgency and expectancy.

Urgency gives us the momentum to keep moving forward at a pace that will bring about results. Expectancy is what keeps our head up and our eyes forward as we move toward our intended targets. Expectancy is what brings clarity to our urgency.

Here are three questions to ask to give clarity to your expectations.

  1. Where are you heading? Describe in detail the destination of the place you are heading. If you have a vision, describe what the vision looks like when it’s brought fully into reality. If it’s a goal, describe in detail what complete success looks like once the goal has been reached. If you are not able to articulate the final destination of your vision or goal you’ll never know if you reach it and your urgency will wane and you’ll never quite know what to expect when you get there.
  2. Why are you heading there? Some visions and goals can sound really compelling on the first listen but they fizzle out quickly. This usually happens when you haven’t explained the why behind the where. It’s not enough to just know where you are heading, you need to know why. What will reaching this destination bring? Does it solve a problem? Does it bring hope? Does it usher in a new utopia? The why is what makes people stay the course, even when the storm blows the hardest.
  3. How long will it take to get there? Vision and goals need timelines. If women were told that their pregnancy wasn’t going to be nine months but rather, it was really just up to the baby to come whenever they wanted, we probably wouldn’t have a lot of pregnant women walking around planet earth. I, at least, know my wife wouldn’t be interested in birthing anything over ten months old. If you don’t give a sense of time to the journey at hand the momentum for urgency and expectancy will be very difficult to control and will look more like a roller coaster than the consistent upward trajectory it should be.

Once you answer these three questions you should be able to build the urgency and expectancy needed to accomplish your vision and goals.

Where have you lost your urgency? Do you have an expectancy for your future? How can you get these two things back?

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